It is not easy to receive the news that our child has some type of developmental problem, and when that disorder is Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), the news may be more difficult to digest. In part, because at a social level much is unknown about autism, there is little visibility, many myths around, a lot of ignorance ...
And when there is ignorance, it is normal to feel fear, vertigo and endless emotions that can make us ask ourselves a thousand doubts and questions. Fortunately, every day more is known about Autism Spectrum Disorders and advances in treatments and their quality of life are increasing.
From my experience working with children and their families, one of the hardest news to give to parents is to tell them that you suspect that their child may have an autism spectrum disorder (from now on ASD). At that point, I know they are going to imagine the worst of the disorder. Just as I am aware that, whatever I tell them, they are going to keep the word Autistic. And the emotional impact is huge.
Depending on the age of the child, some parents already come with the suspicion that something is happening with their child, because they see that he exhibits certain behaviors or behaviors that are strange to them. But it is not the same to have the suspicion that something happens, to be told that your suspicion is an ASD.
Parents' reactions are varied and are not always accepting reactions. That is why the information that professionals give them and how we do it will be crucial for the acceptance and understanding of the diagnosis and the disorder itself.
Receive such a news, has a significant emotional impact, Accepting the diagnosis can be a time full of emotional ups and downs, full of doubts about autism or the future of our child. But at the same time it can be a great relief, since we finally have an explanation about what happens to our son, our suspicions were well founded and were not the result of our imagination and our excessive concern as parents.
The expectations we had for our son collide with the new reality that is presented to us and we have to build a new reality based on the characteristics of our children.
When we speak with parents who have received this diagnosis, most tell us that the hardest part was at the beginning, that it took them time to understand and accept it, and that something fundamental for them was information and support received by professionals and also from other families who share the same reality.
Therefore, it is essential that when we receive the diagnosis, we go to the experts who are the ones who can best help us to understand and understand our child, to know their weaknesses and strengths and discover their capacities to be able to give them the best support and develop to the maximum all their potentialities and overcome difficulties. Something very important will also be the environment that surrounds us, that understands and understands what our son is like it will also be fundamental for the development of the child.
If there is a key aspect when we are told that our child has an autism spectrum disorder, that is the information. How the disorder manifests itself and the severity of symptoms varies greatly from child to child, but children's needs are the same. lots of love, affection and support from the family and the environment. Therefore, it is important to know the type of treatment and intervention most appropriate for our child, the type of support and schooling necessary can positively favor the development of our children.
It will also be important to resolve all our doubts and discard all topics that exist around the disorder that are not few ... Some of the most widespread are related to the origin of the disorder (vaccines, food, cold parents with their children ...) or its manifestations (they do not speak, do not look, have intellectual disabilities ...)
But in addition to the information, psychological and emotional support for parents is essential. As we said before, accepting an autism diagnosis is not easy and we can go through a kind of mourning (saying goodbye to the imagined child and accepting and building a new reality) that may require psychological and emotional support. Therefore, we must hesitate and go to a professional if we think we need it and it can help us accept our new situation.
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