Children's education it is a very complicated task for parents. This is due to multiple factors: lack of time due to work schedules, accumulated fatigue throughout the day, the character of the child himself or a special situation that may arise.
Also in the case of children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, adults are often overwhelmed by the situation and by their own emotions that they do not know how to channel. For this reason, they often feel that the only recourse they have and the easiest to impose will be punishment. But is it a good tool? Should we use punishment with children with ADHD?
Lack of resources is what causes many adults to use threats and punishment when the situation is out of their control. In addition, parents resort to punishment because for them it has supposed advantages such as:
- It is a quick and easy resource to use. When you don't have time or you are tired, it is a very attractive solution to use.
- You do not need intellectual wear to use.
- Results can be achieved in a short period of time. And this in the society we live in, in which there are hours a day short, is a blessing.
- It seems that gives authority to the user.
However, these advantages are not really, as the use of punishment has consequences for children.
1. They damage self-esteem
The continuous use of threats can lead to the deterioration of the child's self-esteem. He will not feel valued by his parents and may even rebel and challenge his parents' authority continuously.
2. They hinder development
Punishing constantly can cause stress in the child and will be detrimental to their development.
3. They promote aggressiveness
The child learns threats by getting used to this type of behavior. Later he will use the threats as a way of relating to his friends, acquaintances and even against his parents.
4. They encourage submission
Punishments generate a style of interaction with the other of a victimizing nature, since children feel defenseless in these types of situations.
5. They generate insecurity
Continual threats prevent children from learning to take responsibility for their actions. However, they do teach them to act to avoid punishment.
The use of punishment in the education of children brings with it various negative consequences for young children. In the event that, in addition, the child suffers from an Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, the use of threats will be more serious.
Is essential that rules and well-defined limits are established to make life easier for children with this disorder. In order to apply them we can use the so-called behavior modification techniques such as positive reinforcement or avoidance, but the use of punishments will not be recommended.
According to various studies, children with ADHD are much more sensitive and they bear punishment worse than children who do not suffer it. They do not know how to handle their emotions in these types of situations and biologically they cannot regulate themselves. Therefore, they try to avoid all situations in which they can be reprimanded, threatened or punished.
Therefore, avoiding the use of punishment in children with ADHD will be beneficial for the little ones. Leaving aside negative interactions such as screaming, threats and destructive criticism will be essential to improve children's emotions and, thus, to optimize their biological regulation.
In addition to having the same consequences as in a child who does not suffer from this disorder, punishments add these negative repercussions to children with ADHD:
- They don't learn rules
They have a hard time understanding what can or cannot be done. Children understand punishment as something unjust that disables them to learn, since they do not understand why.
- They get used to punishment
Children are often punished because their concern is mistaken for bad behavior. In the end they get used to it.
- Calls for attention?
When the child behaves 'well' it goes unnoticed and attention is only paid when it behaves 'badly'. Therefore, it seems that his behavior is always challenging to be considered.
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