Parental Alienation Syndrome is based on a campaign to discredit the alienated parent. Sometimes, the alienator is aware of the actions he performs, but often, he is not fully aware that he is causing psychological and emotional damage in his children, nor of the consequences that it may have in the short and long term in them.
According to some experts, these children can suffer from disturbances and dysfunctions, because their own reasoning processes have been interrupted or coerced.
These are some of the consequences of manipulating children through Parental Alienation Syndrome:
- Anxiety disorders: accelerated breathing, reddening of the skin, sweating, increased tone of voice, tremors and emotional overflow are some of the symptoms of stress that some children manifest at the time of visits with the rejected parent.
-Sleep and eating disorders: nightmares, problems falling asleep or staying asleep and eating disorders derived from the situation they live and do not know how to deal with are other effects that this syndrome can cause in children.
- Aggressive behaviorWhen visits become impossible, aggressive behaviors can be verbal, insults, or even physical, having to stop the situation.
- Avoidance behavior, which can be reflected in anxiety-type somatizations that upset him and that result in not making the visit.
- Emotional dependence, when they are afraid of being abandoned by the parent with whom they live, since they know, and thus feel, that their affection is conditioned. They have to hate one to be liked and accepted by the other.
- Difficulties in the expression and understanding of emotions. SThey tend to express their emotions by focusing excessively on negative aspects. They lack empathic capacity and maintain a rigid attitude towards the different points of view offered by the rejected parent.
After the separation process, a rejection of the children in common towards one of the parents may appear. Primary rejection would occur as an immediate reaction to the breakup of the couple and secondary rejection appears in more slowly gestated separations. The existence of the rejection of one of the parents will lead to the appearance of conflicts in the development of the visitation regime. Faced with this situation, one of the two parents, usually the rejected one, informs the judicial body of the situation, which will lead to an increase in the rejection.
When the SAP comes into contact with the legal system, it becomes a Family Legal Syndrome, where accusations are triggered, searches for explanations and actions, which make the judicial instance become the scene of the problem. Rejection can appear immediately after the breakup or in later periods, that is, years later, generally associated with specific moments in the new family evolutionary cycle. Rejection can be mild, moderate, and severe:
- Mild rejection it is characterized by dislike in the relationship with the father or mother. There is no avoidance and the relationship is not interrupted. .
- Moderate rejection it is measured by the desire not to see the father or mother. The child denies all affection for him and avoids his presence. The rejection is generalized to their family and social environment. The relationship is maintained by obligation or is interrupted.
- The intense rejectionacquires phobic characteristics with strong avoidance mechanisms. Associated psychosomatic symptoms may appear.
In the presence of these symptoms, experts believe that it is advisable for minors to continue having a relationship with the alienated parent, and thus prevent visitation from being suspended. During these visits, the alienated parent must avoid reproaches or give answers that favor the maintenance of the SAP. Rather, you should focus your visits on create a playful environment, looking for activities that children like.
Marisol New. Editor of our site
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